My husband is only 54-yrs-old and was in pretty good shape. About two weeks ago he called me from the desk at the ER and said he wasn't feeling well and it is highly unusual for him to go to an ER so I was worried and went straight away. I was close by the hospital so went directly there and was met at the door by a doctor who told me he suddenly dropped to the floor after he got off the phone with me as he walked into the emergency room. They immediately started CPR and shocking him for 30 minutes with no results so they quickly put him on ECMO to try and keep his heart pumping while they figured out why it stopped. I was told he was clinically dead for a total of 55 minutes. His brain lost too much oxygen so he was on cardiac life support for 6 days and now on pulmonary support because he cannot breathe on his own yet. I am so blessed that he has survived the attack. I am now so scared of what the future holds for him if he ever comes back to us. They kept him in a coma for almost a week and now are slowly trying to wake him but he won't wake up.
It has only been 10 days since the incident and he finally opened his eyes today but is delirious and they cannot do any kind of neurological testing until he can breathe on his own and come out of the place he is lost in his head. All I can do is cry. He looks so scared and I know he doesn't understand what has happened to him but I feel lost and helpless. I don't know if he will ever have brain function back even though the MRI does not show entire loss of any portion of his brain. He looks like he is in pain all the time and is continually withering around trying to get out of the hospital bed so they have him in restraints which I know would drive anyone mad but they claim he is delirious.
There is so much more and then I found out today that he has pneumonia and blood clots in his shoulders from the ECMO and ventilator. I'm not getting great communication from the doctors and my brain isn't processing all of this very well. I know every case is different so I am mostly just looking for information from anyone who may have had a similar experience who may be able to provide me some comfort or hope that I may not lose my best friend after being married for 30+ years.
I feel so helpless, lost and alone right now...any words of wisdom that may give me some hope would be very appreciated. I'm so afraid to lose my best friend....