My Husband Emotional and Psychological effects from his cardiac arrest

My Husband Emotional and Psychological effects from his cardiac arrest

My husband suffered a sudden cardiac arrest on March 12, 2019 after his doctor sent him to the pharmacy without even doing a EKG. He collapsed and faceplanted as he walked into the Pharmacy. Luckily, the fire station was right next to the pharmacy and the pharmacist was there pretty quickly. En route they did shock my husband twice to get his heart started. After a Face and Head CT scan showed no brain hemmorrage they were able to put three stents in the right side of his heart. They did give him hypothermia treatment as well after the surgery. He remained in a coma with five fractures in his face for 11 days and a total of 14 days in the ICU and step down before two weeks at a Rehabilitation hospital. He was given a life vest for three months of monitoring which was removed June 28th, 2019. Per his cardiologist, no defibrillator needs to be put in at this time. The reason for my post is I need help because he is just not same since they removed the vest, he gets so angry at the drop of the hat and says he should of died. Last evening, he told me everything in his life is different now, his company, our marriage, how he feels about me. And of course I'm crushed because he is the love of my life. I am perimenopausal so my hormones are all over the place and not helping. Not sure what to do. I have anxiety and a tendency to smother him with phone calls during the day just to make sure he is okay which is totally affecting our marriage but at the same time I'm doing it out of love and he is just so mean. Not sure if this is normal and not sure if it has to do with loss of oxygen. Any help, guidance or insight is greatly appreciated. I can't really talk to my siblings because they would say leave him and I'm not ready to give up on him yet.

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SCAFoundation wrote 8 weeks 5 days ago

Thank you for reaching out

Hi Shannon,

Thank you for sharing your story. We are very happy your husband survived sudden cardiac arrest. At the same time, we are so sorry to hear you both are going through such a difficult time. Please know you are not alone. Many survivors take time to get back to "normal." What you are experiencing may be only a phase.

You may find this information to be helpful.

We invite others to offer their insights and support.

Best wishes,

Mary Newman

Sudden Cardiac Arrest Foundation

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tthouses wrote 2 weeks 6 days ago

Mental aspects of recovery

Shannon I read your story. Just incredible he was released to go to the pharmacy. I had a SCA last January and I am currently writing a complete story about it. The most difficult part to write about is my emotional state since the incident. According to two cardiologist I sustained no damage to my heart. But coming out on the other side emotionally has not been a cake walk. I am not as labile as your husband but I have decided to see a psychologist about my moods (which is mostly depression). I can't say that I wish I had not survived, because Im glad that I did and thank the 4 first responders who saved my life before EMS showed up. But there are questions that run through my head, "what's my purpose?", "should I quit my job?",
"just what am i supposed to do with new lease on life?", Stuff like that. I am currently trying to find a support group of survivors..Dont know where you live but if you husband wants to wrap give me a shout. But he might benefit from a therapies too..No shame in this. I could forward you my story to him..He is not alone. Has he seen a neurologist to rule out any hypoxia negative outcome from the event? Im a nurse anthetists by profession so I have professionals to talk with. Hope this helps...Paul

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shanmarie wrote 1 week 6 days ago

Thank you Paul for sharing.

Thank you Paul for sharing. I so grateful you are doing positive things for yourself since surviving. I wish my husband would be open to any of the ideas you have suggested, but he is not. I love him so much, but at some point the Emotional and verbal abuse will get to much for me I'm afraid and I will for my own self need to walk away from the man I love. I wish you nothing but the best with your recovery. And yes your words were very helpful.

Thank you and take care.
Shannon

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catnip wrote 1 week 6 days ago

Shannon, you are not alone...

Hi, Shannon...
I am so glad you found this blog area. First and foremost, you are not alone.

I realize you both are very early into this journey post SCA. I am happy to say that for me, things did get better. The first year is so, so hard... you may feel so alone. And it's difficult for friends/family to grasp what has happened to you and your husband... Doctors have fixed his heart, but there are other wounds that take longer to heal. The trauma you each may be feeling is real. And, full recovery takes time.

As my survivor husband says, "Dying is hard." And, as I tell him, seeing it all happen, pushing on your chest, waiting for you to hopefully wake up in ICU, and the what-ifs and worry post SCA are equally hard for both of us. SCA is a family event. But, in time Rick and I have come full circle, reclaimed our lives and found peace and joy.

When this happened to us 7 years ago, a spouse of a survivor was there for me months after, and that was so very helpful. And, I have spoken with other spouses ever since… mostly listen, but share feelings, fears and whatever is helpful. I’m not a trained professional, but I may have some small sense of what you may be going through. I’m just a safe place for you to share. It is not easy to navigate this first year. It may feel a bit like a tug-of-war. So much may have changed, and your sense of security may be off for a bit. But it can get better.

I’m here for you, Heart Buddy… You are not alone. If you would like to speak, let me know how to reach you. Or, you can friend me on FB... There are a lot of us out there, and we are here to support you and your husband...

With strength,
Jennifer Chap
BuddyCPR

Jen

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