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Depression and Separation

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SCAFoundation
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Hi All, We have a question from someone whose son suffered sudden cardiac arrest in January. Since he survived, he has become depressed and wants to separate from his wife, event through she was with him throughout the ordeal. Has anyone else experienced something similar?

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Hello! As a SCA survivor, I would first ask if he is on any new medication to see if that is contributing to the depression. I believe there should be continued follow up appointments with qualified health and mental health professionals after suffering cardiac arrest. I was upset that since nothing was technically 'wrong' with my heart, I did not qualify for any additional type of treatment or therapy. I am sure that each survivor has a slightly different experience.. but I believe most suffer from some sort of depression after cardiac arrest..I hope he gets the help he needs..parker4

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It's hard to give a blanket

It's hard to give a blanket response with so little details - namely - what are his reasons for wanting to separate etc.

I have had two SCA now, the first 3 years ago at age 20 leading to a week in a coma and the detection of heart condition - and another 3 months ago while I had an implanted defib. I can certainly relate to depression - but my depression has always come from not the SCAs - but because of what it meant to have a genetic heart disorder.

I was literally in the process of joining our (Aus) Air Force when I had my SCA -- can't do that anymore, my "backup" was the Police Service -- can't do that anymore either. So I'm 'stuck' in a profession I'm not sure I'm 100% enjoying.

Likewise, with relationships, how can I commit to someone or something if I know I'm faulty - how can I put my future children through what I went through (50% chance I will) - or, in this case, put my "future" wife through that again. I see myself as a faulty product - why should she be stuck with me or any child I have be punished because of my genes?

I am still depressed - but even if I wasn't - I don't know if I could face having a family and telling them that there is a 50% chance our children will experience or be prone to experience an SCA.

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Thank you for sharing

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It's hard to give a blanket

You are so young still, you cant live your life thinking this way. The fact that you are a fighter and have survived not one but two SCA's is so amazing! You have so much to live for, dont let this or anything else make you feel differently. Be happy that you beat the odds and that you are a survivor. You should absolutely go and live life to it's fullest!!